Sunday, April 23, 2017

Quote of the Day

If you are involved with a person who has the full narcissistic disorder, you will experience what is best epitomized in an analogy to a black hole -- an area in outer space so powerful that everything around it is sucked in, including light.  The black hole is the ultimate archetype of the one-way relationship with the narcissist.

-- Eleanor D. Payson, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, p. 172-173

Saturday, April 22, 2017

Quote of the Day

Oh God, we are near complete despair.  How can we possibly change our fate?  How can we possibly persuade our society that we deserve to be treated with decency and respect?  How can we possibly fight a criminal justice system that has been designed to ensure our defeat?  How can we possibly combat the blindness of white men and women who are so deeply invested in their own privilege that they cannot afford to see how much we suffer?

-- Michael Eric Dyson, Tears We Cannot Stop, p. 21

Friday, April 21, 2017

Quote of the Day

If we really want to have authentic connections with others, then we need to talk about two kinds of psychological baggage we tend to carry around, which make us completely self-conscious about our capacity to connect with people: (1) guilt about how we've let others down, and (2) resentment about being let down by others in the past.  The resulting beliefs -- that we are not enough, and that others are not enough -- get in the way of trusting our innate capacities to give.

-- Kelsey Crowe and Emily McDowell, There Is No Good Card for This, p. 27

Thursday, April 20, 2017

Quote of the Day

As we compassionately come to terms with the truth of our deeper feelings and experiences from childhood, we learn empathy for ourselves.  In turn, this empathy helps us let go of the anger we feel with the narcissist.

-- Eleanor D. Payson, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, p. 171

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Quote of the Day

Almighty, hear our prayer.  Oh God, how we suffer.  We your servants are ensnared in tragedy that doesn't end.  We can do nothing to make our tormentors stop their evil.  We cannot convince them that we are your children and don't deserve this punishment.  We have tried everything we can to keep them from slaughtering us in the streets.  They hide behind the state to justify killing us.  They say we are scary, that they are afraid for their lives.  They say this even when we have nothing in our hands but air.  They say this even when they are armed with weapons meant to remove us from the face of the earth.  They say this even when they must throw down guns to pretend that we intended to do them harm.  They say this even when video proves they are lying through their teeth.

-- Michael Eric Dyson, Tears We Cannot Stop, p. 21

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Quote of the Day

If you're choosing between saying something and saying nothing [when someone in your life is hurting], you're almost always better off saying something.

-- Kelsey Crowe and Emily McDowell, There Is No Good Card for This, p. 15

Monday, April 17, 2017

Quote of the Day

What it comes to is that if we, who can scarcely be considered a white nation, persist in thinking of ourselves as one, we condemn ourselves, with the truly white nations, to sterility and decay, whereas if we could accept ourselves as we are, we might bring new life to the Western achievements, and transform them . . . The price of this transformation is the unconditional freedom of the Negro . . . He is the key figure in his country, and the American future is precisely as bright or as dark as his.

-- James Baldwin