Henri Nouwen:

For as long as you can remember, you have been a pleaser, depending on others to give you an identity. You need not look at this only in a negative way. You wanted to give your heart to others, and you did so quickly and easily. But now you are being asked to let go of all these self-made props and trust that God is enough for you. You must stop being a pleaser and reclaim your identity as a free self.