Most emotional blackmailers are not monsters. As we'll see, they're rarely driven by malice but rather by some demons of their own ... Because they are usually people who have an important place in our lives, people we may still want to look to as protectors or supporters, I know that recognizing them as blackmailers can be extremely painful. It's not easy to look closely at behavior we may have tried to forgive or ignore and see how it's affected us. But it's a vital step if we hope to put a troubled relationship back on solid ground.
-- Susan Forward with Donna Frazier, Emotional Blackmail, p. 38