We all have some of what may be termed narcissistic needs such as the need to be valued, admired, understood, or simply recognized as a unique person. During painful periods, we become much more narcissistic, or self-centered, and our demands for attention, mirroring, validation, etc., increase. However, when we feel better, we generally return to a baseline ability to reciprocate in our relationships. Instead of only taking, we give-and-take by listening, understanding, validating, and supporting others.
-- Eleanor D. Payson, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, p. 10-11