Forgiveness doesn't mean burying our feelings and crossing our fingers that they'll just go away. In order to successfully forgive, we need to take a look at the source of our anger or hurt, with the help of listening friends and occasionally, a professional. Often, such feelings are rooted in our own sense of unworthiness. Forgiveness comes when we're able to recognize that the other person's actions were more about them -- their own motivations and context -- than about us.
-- Kelsey Crowe and Emily McDowell, There Is No Good Card for This, p. 39