This book is a lot about learning how to give yourself permission to go on living even when it really hurts. Right now you might be glad I've given you permission. Eventually, you'll no longer need anyone's but your own. Permission to do what? Permission to take yet another stab at putting together the kind of identity that makes you feel that you're being true to yourself and that life is worth living. Go ahead, give yourself permission to become the kind of person you've always dreamed you could be.
-- Kate Bornstein, Hello, Cruel World, p. 32