Every style of emotional blackmail wreaks havoc with our well-being. It's easiest to pay attention to the punishers, whose tactics seem the most destructive. But don't for a minute discount the corrosive effects of the quieter types, the ones who are more like termites than tornadoes. Silent or dramatic, both can bring the house down.
-- Susan Forward with Donna Frazier, Emotional Blackmail, p. 38