When we look at how intensely blackmailers fear deprivation, a more complex picture begins to take shape and it's easier to fathom why they act as they do. But one question continues to nag most of the people I talk to about this subject: Why do they need to punish us? "OK," they say. "I see why they nag or pressure us or even make threats, but why on earth do they need to hurt us if we don't give them their way?"
-- Susan Forward with Donna Frazier, Emotional Blackmail, p. 93