There's nothing wrong with wanting approval, or asking for it. But approval junkies need a constant supply, and judge that they've failed if they can't get it. They believe they're not OK unless someone else says they are, and their sense of security depends almost entirely on outside validation. The approval junkie's motto is "If I'm not getting approval, I've done something wrong." Or worse yet, "If I'm not getting approval there's something wrong with me."
-- Susan Forward with Donna Frazier, Emotional Blackmail, p. 105