When we share vulnerability, especially shame stories, with someone with whom there is no connectivity, their emotional (and sometimes physical) response is often to wince, as if we have shone a floodlight in their eyes. Instead of a strand of delicate lights, our shared vulnerability is blinding, harsh, and unbearable. If we are on the receiving end, our hands fly up and cover our faces, we squeeze our entire faces (not just our eyes) shut, and look away. When it's over, we feel depleted, confused, and sometimes even manipulated. Not exactly the empathetic response that those telling the story were hoping for.
-- Brene Brown, Daring Greatly, p. 160