My process of mourning was not a function of wanting what I had back. I think for many people this view of grieving is a foreign one. My grief took the form of adjusting to change. I had gained so much through this process. I am past asking questions like "why did this happen so late in life for me?" or "how could I have not realized this before I married and began my family?" Knowing the why does not help change it or make sense of things. I have found that line of thinking to be more confusing in the end. Why is irrelevant at times. What I do in the present is truly the important piece of the puzzle.
-- Dawn Elizabeth Waters, Switching Teams, p. 48