... our psyches will push us from within to face our history and the legacy of our parent's history. The push is usually in the form of a psychological or relationship crisis. The inevitable first step is finding the courage to face our inner self in a much deeper way than we may have been willing to face before. Once we have a crisis that we cannot ignore -- whether it is a relationship failure, depression, or unrelenting anxiety -- we may finally allow ourselves permission to look further into our psyches and seek help in therapy.
-- Eleanor D. Payson, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, p. 84