With a surface presentation that is often captivating, we are drawn to the narcissist. Initially our feelings of attraction, admiration, or intimidation become the emotional state that holds us spellbound. Eventually, however, the negative influences of the narcissist erode our trust and confidence inducing a state of emotional paralysis. And the length of time that we struggle to find our way out of the narcissist's world can vary from days -- to years -- to a whole lifetime.
-- Eleanor D. Payson, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, p. 165-166