Like Dorothy, perhaps we have to learn the hard way. Dorothy came perilously close to being burned alive before she could wake up to the fact that she had been chasing an illusion. For the same reasons, we must see past the impressive show of the NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) individual and penetrate our own false beliefs before we can recognize our capacity and birthright for love. Our courage to confront the illusions of toxic narcissism will come from some painful moment that helps us break free and see the hidden truth under the surface.
-- Eleanor D. Payson, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, p. 167