A system of morality tells us what to do and what not to do, but it cannot tell us what we should feel. Genuine feelings cannot be produced, nor can they be eradicated. We can only repress them, delude ourselves, and deceive our bodies. But as we have already seen, our brains are permanent repositories of our emotions; these are retrievable, susceptible of experience, and luckily they can be transformed without risk into conscious feelings. And if we are fortunate enough to find an enlightened witness, we can learn to recognize their meaning and their causes.
-- Alice Miller, The Body Never Lies, p. 38