It's scary, telling another person "This is who I am. This is what I want." Scarier still is standing by the truth of ourselves -- our integrity -- as we must when we give the other person a choice to accept or not accept our decisions and differences. We may feel as though expressing our needs is akin to making demands, but remember that what we're asking of the blackmailer is absolutely reasonable: we want the other person to stop manipulating us. We're not asking for anything that will harm us or them.
-- Susan Forward with Donna Frazier, Emotional Blackmail, p. 221