Learning to tolerate discomfort in the service of healthy change is one of the most difficult things any of us has to do. In the past, discomfort has always been the prelude to compliance, but now you're changing all that, and you're going to feel unsteady. It's OK to feel uncertain and anxious as you regain your integrity. Things are starting to shift internally as well as externally, and I want to reassure you that it's perfectly natural to feel shaky when that's happening. Don't let discomfort throw you off course.
-- Susan Forward with Donna Frazier, Emotional Blackmail, p. 157-158