Eventually, with time and perspective, the person in crisis may be able to look back on this time in their lives and think, You know what, I can see how X good thing came out of that terrible event. Making meaning out of horrible situations does help people cope with them. But that kind of benefit is something we each arrive at (or not) on our own, in our own time. No amount of force-fed positivity will help, unless the suffering person is ready to go there. And in the immediate aftermath of a diagnosis, death, or loss, very few people are.
-- Kelsey Crowe and Emily McDowell, There Is No Good Card for This, p. 205